The problem is that the network was trying to cater to two very different view points and wound up losing everyone. If you’re going to be controversial, then go there. Top shows like All in the Family and Mash were listed as comedies but dealt with adult themes like rape, abortion, violence. If they thought kids weren’t watching brother they sure were dumb. It was shows like this that brought dare into television into the later 80s, like Married with Children. That started in the late 1980s and that wasn’t prudish at all. It started out making fun of the massive family comedy shows out there. Then an episode where a girl appeared in underwear was on the show. A woman started a campaign to get the show cancelled but it got more people tuning in to see what would be next. And there was plenty to be seen on the show. But that was in the 90s and things were changing. They had to change because audiences were changing and one had to keep up.
In the 1980s, television began a push to cast teenagers as teenagers. In the 70s, actors in their 20s were cast as teenagers-shows like Happy Days and Welcome Back Kotter. When the shows first started in the early to mid 70s it was acceptable. As the shows rolled on and these actors got near 30, it was a bit absurd. So networks started to create shows about teens by teens.
One early show was James at 15. The title says it-it was about a boy named James and his life at 15. The show didn’t interest me but I knew a few friends who liked it. The show was picked up for another season and it was James at 16. James met a foreign exchange student and decided he wanted to lose his virginity. I read the controversy behind it. Wikipedia reported that the head writer quit because the network demanded the scene where he goes to buy birth control dropped and the writer said the network is saying it’s better to have unprotected sex and risk getting her pregnant. I remember weeks of protests on both sides-kids were having sex whether their parents knew it or not, so it was better to handle it with maturity and teach about birth control. This was especially true when teen pregnancy was on the rise back then. The flip side screamed that children were having sex because they were watching so much of it being suggested in TV so they couldn’t help it-giving them birth control will only invite more kids to try it. The fear of pregnancy should be a deterrent to having sex. The show itself was cancelled because of the drop in ratings. After looking it up in Wikipedia the show was on in the late 70s, but the point is made.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
I think the 80s continued the transition that the late 70s were starting. There was fear of such transitions so nice safe family comedies glutted the market. Eventually the more you push, the more gets pushed back. I confess I didn’t watch that much TV in the early 80s because I was in college and busting my backside to get good grades. My father did watch a lot of these shows, and he lamented why weren’t kids like those in TV. Dad didn’t understand a lot of English. But it makes me wonder what other parents thought then.
